To see ourselves with clear eyes.
The easiest way for girls to break themselves down is to base their self-confidence on the perceptions of others.
And you may read this and think ‘oh, what a teenage thing to say’.
Untrue. Most young women I know are plagued with insecurity in some shape or form, some worse than others. And to write it off as teenage behavior perpetuates their lack of love for themselves.
And these insecurities aren’t floaty, ‘all in your head’ ideas, no way.
They’ve caused me to do countless things that I now regret.
To look for safety in places that only offer far poorer substitutes.
I’m not sure I could even remember all the boys I’ve used to give me a temporary sense of attractiveness.
This is what a lady I respect greatly told me recently:
There is no one like you in this world. You are beautiful in your own right.
I would say the same thing about every single one of my girlfriends.
Because we so often base our perception of our beauty on what boys think of us, and we tear our hearts to shreds when they don’t think of us in the way we want them to.
When did beauty become defined by opinions?
Does a rose stop being gorgeous simply because one person doesn’t like the colour?
So this is where I am.
I’m a seriously socially awkward person who cannot talk to people I admire, an absolute nerd about fashion, I constantly lose myself in my own head, and I have an embarassingly loud laugh that causes strangers on the street to turn and stare (true story).
And I claim that. I will not be any less than I am to please someone else.
This is my hope - for more girls to see themselves with clear eyes.
To know their strengths and build on it.
To know their weaknesses and not be afraid to admit it and ask for help.
And above all, to love themselves.
“There is no exquisite beauty without some strangeness in proportion.”
- Edgar Allan Poe